Sunday, 22 June 2008

Remembering Frodo

We are devastated. I am really sorry to inform you that I found Frodo at the side of the road a couple of weeks ago. He was a real explorer and loved being outside and as we live on a farm with woods and fields all around it seemed the perfect haven but when he wasn't about one night and didn't come to our calls we got worried. The following morning I spent hours looking for him and then kept going out and calling. I expected and prepared myself for the worst but secretly wished for a miracle and then sadly found him. I have been going through the day before he left to try and analyse what I could or should have done but they were so happy. I know time and family are good healers but at the moment all I can think about is how much We loved him in the short time We had him. Gandalf is beside himself and cries out constantly - if you have any advice on what I can do to help him please let me know.

10 comments:

Freya's Staff said...

We're absolutely devastated. I just can't put into words how we're feeling right now for you. All the tears we're crying now have no comparison to how you must be feeling.

It's true time will heal, but don't be afraid to cry daily when you remember things, it perfectly normal and ok. It's over 3 months since I lost my Scampi, and I can still have a little cry, but it's kind of a happy cry, not a sad one, because I'm proud of the impact she had on my life.

Through your blog, we both kinda grew to love Frodo and Gandalf, and regularly check up to see if you've posted anything new, so we were wondering why there hadn't been any posts recently.

I just feel speechless, and can't offer you any expert advice, other than if Gandalf is missing Frodo, all you can do is try and distract him with happy things, his favourite foods, and just interacting with him, cuddles, playtime etc.

My best advice though, is to post something at www.bengaltalk.com. It's full of lovely, friendly people who will be able to talk and share your grief, and will certainly be able to offer practical advice for Gandalf about what you can do too.

chez said...

Thank you so much. I will try and post something at bengaltalk and again here soon.

My sister wrote this latest blog for me as I felt I really had to let you all know but every time I sat down to write something I just couldn't.

bye for now
Love Chez x

Leslie said...

Hello Chez,

We are also devastated here at the Cattery. Frodo was a special young man and you gave him a great 3 months. Please give Gandalf extra attention and cuddles - I firmly believe that cats grieve. I know this is terribly American, but below is a special poem that I like to send to people when they lose a beloved pet. It will make you cry!

Leslie & everybody at the RSPCA

Rainbow Bridge

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...

Freya's Staff said...

Hey Chez,

Just wanted to let you know that we're still thinking of you..

Love to Gandalf xx

Freya, Chris & Anna

Corrinne said...

Oh my goodness. That is just the most upsetting news I've heard in ages. Both Rob and I are really really sorry for you. It's any animal lover's worst nightmare come true. I feel for you so much. When I lived in South Africa I had a little dog called Sebastian who I used to leave out in the garden whenever I went out. One evening, after a wonderful day having fun with my friends, I came home and discovered that he had drowned in the swimming pool. I was devestated and tortured myself for ages. Then one night while tossing and turning, I saw him lying on the floor next to my bed and he looked so content and relaxed. I'm sure he came back to tell me not to worry; that he was fine and happy. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I hope you're not torturing yourself. Like Leslie says, you gave Frodo a precious gift; the chance to experience true happiness in the short time you had him. I do hope you will keep going with the blog, and let us know how Gandalf is doing. Wishing you lots of love x

chez said...

Bless your heart Corrinne,

This has been so difficult to deal with - my blog was for Frodo and Gandalf they were such a team together and it just didn't seem right to keep going with it. One of the hardest things to deal with was the fact that Georgia had really clicked with Frodo and it broke her little heart.

Gandalf is so gorgeous but he so so so misses Frodo, He sees me and always comes running up meowing to me as if to say "where is my best mate, My Brother?" If I sit down to read he sits square on the pages and meows, if I try to type on the computer he lies on the keys meows. Everyone says he only does the calling when I'm about as if he wants us to go and look for him - He has looked in every corner for him.

I'll be back to write some more later Thank you all so much for your support, as you can imagine I have been beating myself up since we lost Frodo so all of your kind words really help.


bye for now
Love Chez and Gandalf x

crazykittykat1 said...

So sorry to hear about your tragic loss. I hope that you can get a pal for Gandolf, since it may help him recover. Younger cats do well when another cat introduced where older cats typically do not. It won't be a true replacement, just with people animals are each individuals. But the companionship will help heal and Gandolf won't feel so alone.

I still get teary eyed when I think about my 2 cats that I had to put down after 16 and 17 years when they were both so sick. Each cat is special, wonderful little personalities.

kitty hugs to you,

crazykittykat1 and family

chez said...

Freya's staff this is georgia here and i have to say thank you soooo much for your wonderfull comment.

i must admit that frodo was my very favourite,but i will always love them both,Gandalf and Frodo equally.

At the moment mum(chez) cant decide weather to do the blog agian witch is sad but it always was and still will be FRODO and GANDALF.

Freya's Staff said...

Hi Georgia!

I think you should be careful that Gandalf doesn't read your comment when you're asleep! He's a smart cat (I know his mum!) so I'm sure operating a computer would be easy! :-)

Just keep giving him 10 times the fuss, and all the cuddles he can handle, and everything will be fine!

I so hope either you or your mum continue with the blog all about Gandalf! You still have readers that are patiently waiting to see Gandalf again!

I'm so sorry that Frodo's gone to Rainbow Bridge, but don't forget, Gandalf still needs you more than ever now!

Give him a BIG hug from me!

Corrinne said...

Hey, how's Gandalf the Great doing? I was thinking about him a lot this week. I hope you're all feeling better than you did in those first few weeks. I don't think you'll ever stop getting that 'stomach punch' when you think about it. I still get it whenever I think about Sebastian, and it's been 10 years since I lost him. Anyway, I just thought I'd let you know you're in my thoughts x